Hope your all enjoying your Bank holiday weekends and the sun is shining wherever you are… London is beaming!
This weekend is the best time to take a little time out for yourself and incase you wondered, what can I do with myself? I’ve listed a few ideas below for you guys:
Read a book
Catch up on your favourite series
Work on your skincare routine
Rearrange your room
Bake some cakes
Whether you’re spending this isolation period on your own or with other household members, its important to enjoy your own company at times. It makes us less reliant on other peoples presence and as individuals makes us more independent. With the likes of social media and advanced technology of todays generation, it has become very easy to always be surrounded by people both virtually and physically. Almost so that we may have forgotten what it’s like to be alone.
So how do we learn to appreciate our own company?
Set goals for yourself to achieve – whether that be reaching a desired weight by the end of the month or quitting a bad habit. It keeps you focused on what you want to accomplish that you don’t worry who’s around or not.
Writing – I know this may not be everyones cup of tea, but for me I feel like I can go into my own little world when I’m writing, so much so that it sometimes feels like i’m talking to someone while i’m writing my thoughts down. Does that make sense? or is this just a sign of madness? i’m not sure… but basically what i’m trying to say is that, although i’m alone it feels like i’m telling someone my story, so I guess it kind of gives you a sense of security that your not completely alone.
And if you don’t like the idea of writing a short blog/story, you can always write down future plans, bucket list idea’s – whether that be to travel, go into a new profession, build a family or doing something crazy like bungee jumping. Because here’s the thing, achieving your goals makes you more self assured, it builds confidence and with confidence you learn to be happy and comfortable in your own skin.
Catch up on things you may have postponed – spending too much time with other people can result in falling behind on things you wanted to do, things likes; clearing out your wardrobe, finishing your favourite book/series, or starting a new course. Use this time to accomplish those things, not only does it give you a sense of achievement but you’ll feel more relaxed and content within yourself. If you follow me on Instagram you may have seen my little clear out of my wardrobe a couple of weeks ago. this was something I was meaning to do for a very long time (if you saw my story, you’ll know how bad it really was!!) and after it was finished, yes I felt knackered… there’s no doubt about that, but I felt relieved, I felt proud and most importantly I felt content with myself.
But what happens if you haven’t got anything to catch up on? Well, that’s easy… start something new and exciting to do. It can be absolutely anything, the main thing is keeping yourself busy, for when your not busy you’ll most likely get bored and possibly irritated leaving you to dislike to your own company… and that’s not the aim here!
Something that I wanted to address while learning to enjoy your own company is that being alone and being lonely are too completely different things and here’s why:
1. You can be happy while you are alone. The same can’t be said for being lonely
2. Standing in a concert full of people, you can be lonely. It is not a question of numbers, but of emotions. However if you are watching your friends video of the concert at home by yourself, well you get it, you are just alone.
3. If you fancy a drink when you are alone, that’s entirely up to you. If you want to have a drink when you are lonely… don’t do it. It’s nothing but a slippery slope that nine times out of ten will make you feel a lot worse.
Lastly, loneliness has more side affects with it; things like confusion, insomnia, it makes you overthink A LOT at the best of times. Don’t confuse yourself when you’re alone into thinking you’re lonely. “Being alone is a state of being; loneliness is a state of mind.” reference from thoughtcatalog.com
I hope this has given you a little bit of light into appreciating your own company and that there’s so many wonderful benefits of being alone, showing you what you can create or achieve by doing so.
https://thoughtcatalog.com/adrea-cope/2014/04/the-difference-between-being-alone-and-being-lonely/ – more great info about the difference of loneliness and being alone on this blog if you wanted more of an insight!